Many people think that Japanese women are too virtuous and knowledgeable. In fact, Japanese women not only take care of their husbands to the fullest, they are also very good at getting along with their mothers-in-law, which is well worth learning from their female friends.
I. Ask your mother-in-law for advice.
Actively ask your mother-in-law for advice on things she’s good at and proud of when she comes to the house. For example, how to cook a dish, the difficulties you encounter when tying a sweater, the meaning of a dialect, and elevate her status to highlight her importance. Don’t forget to thank her later, too.
Without her you might not have understood for the rest of your life. For those who like to elevate their status, take advantage of her hobby to elevate her status appropriately and make her feel that her daughter-in-law is well-behaved and understands that it will do you no harm.
Two, ask her husband for advice about his previous affairs.
Find time to ask her mother-in-law intimately about her son’s childhood and his school days when she comes to the house. Listening to her recite how it wasn’t easy for her to raise this son shows that she knows her husband better than you do, and you take the opportunity to get to know him. Her pride in being a mother is satisfied with you, and her relationship with you will naturally ease up.
Three, use the child.
While there are things your mother-in-law does that are inappropriate, never talk badly about your mother-in-law in front of your children. The way you usually treat your mother-in-law will be seen by your children and unintentionally reflected in words and actions. The mother-in-law is unhappy and will deliberately find fault to reprimand you, or go around saying bad things about you. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Fourth, let her see how much you love and care for your husband.
Even though you are usually good to your husband, it is perfectly fine to behave better in front of your mother-in-law. The first thing you can do is to buy a sweater for your husband and be considerate to him in front of her, so that she can see that this daughter-in-law truly loves her son, and she will only increase her trust in you.
V. Pay attention to the language used.
A few simple greetings have an unexpected effect, meet in the morning and say hello cordially first, usually learn to be a little sweeter, “Mom, after you” for everything. The effect is often a hundred times better than explaining a little inappropriate place to apologize first. We are not a noble person, a little bending is not a big deal.
Six, defusing rumors with action.
As the saying goes, being righteous doesn’t scare you. You have a reputation for being a good person in the hearts of those around you, and people who have been with you for a long time are unlikely to listen to their mother-in-law and believe it. And people actually don’t take other people’s affairs to heart, and care only about the victims themselves. Directly arguing with the person spreading the rumor, no matter how justified you look is nothing more than a quarrel. The positive way to confront rumors is to diffuse them with action.