In fact, there are some methods and strategies to be used for a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! As a daughter-in-law, you must understand those subtle rules of peaceful coexistence between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law:
One, mother-in-law is not a real mother
Mother-in-law has raised her son with great pains, and is always worried that her son has married his daughter-in-law and forgotten her mother. When she has this concern in mind, she is prone to eat her daughter-in-law’s jealousy, and often takes her jealousy out on her daughter-in-law. Her son, who is more filial than the average person, will listen to his mother’s complaints and turn toward her, or dare not go against the old man’s wishes even though he knows it is his mother who is wrong.
Advice for getting along: Remember there is only one woman in the world who is not jealous of you, and that is your own mother. Although your mother-in-law is about the same age as your mother, and you call her mom, she will never be your mother. So she has the same general woman’s mentality. In her eyes, you are a young woman, a son she worked hard to raise but now pampers you. So you, the aggressor possessor, should be careful of your mother-in-law’s fragile inner sorrow and loss. Always remember that a mother-in-law is a woman.
II. Taboo between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Many mothers-in-law in China have a feudal sense of patriarchy. When you live together, your mother-in-law often compares her younger days with yours, and it is easy to create friction in each other’s perceptions of life.
Advice for getting along: In the eyes of your mother, your son is the best man in the world, with no flaws and no mistakes. Even if the husband is inferior, you can only close the door of your home room to educate privately. And you can’t reflect the situation with your mother-in-law in a serious way. As much as possible in front of your mother-in-law praise the benefits of your husband, which is undoubtedly the most useful thing for your mother-in-law. If there is nothing to boast about, it is best to shut up and think about this question – what is the use of keeping such a husband?
Three, mothers-in-law need to be educated
Some mothers-in-law are poorly read and do not understand the human condition, and the biggest headache for the daughter-in-law is that such mothers-in-law love to be calculating. The most important thing is that you have to do the right thing in your life, and if you don’t do it right or if you don’t make her happy, she will never stop talking to you!
Together with the advice: mother-in-law needs to be educated. Don’t ever think that this is a treacherous idea. The most important thing to do is to make sure that your mother-in-law is not offended, but it is never the way of a smart woman to go along with her. The only way to make her aware of your position and principles is through direct action, so she can look at your relationship from a position of respect.
4. Change comes little by little
Senior citizens are generally very stubborn, and their frugal instincts are the mark of decades of living in poverty. But a mother-in-law who is too fond of the old to accept new things is very much called a daughter-in-law’s headache. He can not accept the modern values and consumerism, the changing life will make her insecure, and a hundred dissatisfaction with you, belly propagandist fire. The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem.
There are many ways to make changes, and you can’t expect your 60-year-old mother-in-law to fully accept your values and consumerism overnight. The company’s main goal is to make sure that the company’s customers are not overwhelmed by the situation. If we force our mother-in-law to adapt to us, it will not be fair to her, she will feel that she has lost control of her life and will feel that the younger generation does not respect her. Once resistance is created, changing her frugal and nostalgic mindset will be extra difficult.
Remember a song that says, “Don’t guess what’s in a girl’s mind, you can’t guess what’s in a boy’s mind, you can’t guess what’s in a boy’s mind.
I think it’s a good idea to be a good daughter-in-law, but you have to know and understand the little thoughts of your mother-in-law, so that your relationship can be harmonious and close.