The love world is also like a battlefield, and it can be a challenge to resolve the troubles on your love path. Many lovers are in love when they fall in love, but from the moment you make a vow of love with him, you will have to deal with it with all your energy. There are many women friends say that after a period of time after the two married life men always stay outside the life and ignore the family, is the man cheating degenerate? In fact, why don’t women think about their own reasons or life caused by it!
Cause one, stereotypical life
Jing and Ray together after The two of them practice yoga together every Wednesday and meet friends for dinner on Saturday nights. …… This life is so perfect that Jing thinks it is called a lifetime together. However, from the second month onwards, Ray excused himself to work overtime and always returned to their nest very late.
Review: Women and men have different definitions of home, women take home as the sky and think it is the focus of their lives. Men, however, think that it is just a place to rest after a campaign. So don’t force a man to adapt to the pace of your home life; the uninteresting repetition will make him want to escape.
Strategy: Let him take the lead on the “nightlife” and give him plenty of space while you inject a fresh element into your life.
Cause #2: The Wrong Mental MESSAGE
SAM works in a high-pressure accounting firm, and JUNE is eager to be his career sage, so when he comes home from work, JUNE always plays the role of a little thinker, advising him. Her experience in the trade did make a big difference, and SAM’s work became better and better every day. But one day, after a fight, SAM yelled at her, “Do you think I need your guidance?” After that, she didn’t come home for three days.
Review: When a man comes home, the last thing he wants to do is to leave his work behind and relax. But how can you get high when there is always a lover standing around who wants to bring him back to the work atmosphere?
Strategy: He really doesn’t resent your assistance, he just feels that the time and place are wrong, and besides, he has a little pride to maintain. The next time you make a suggestion, you might want to exchange it on MSN at lunchtime.
Reason #3, Information Exchange Concentration Camp
Lynn became a happy little It’s been two or three months since she became a happy little housewife, and the days she doesn’t have to work are perfect for keeping her little home in order. Even though we have been together for a long time, she still misses seeing her husband Chen for a day. So whenever Chen is off work, she loves to stay by his side, chattering and gossiping about her thoughts and the day’s interesting events. But she noticed that instead of comforting her like he used to, Chen had recently become later and later to come home.
Review: Women are bored to death all day long, so they naturally have the time and space to let their feelings fester twice as much, but don’t assume that men will think the same way you do – that they will have to face 500 of them every day as soon as they get off work The duck’s emotional chatter, how will he not run away?
Strategy: Full-time housewives need to learn to have fun with themselves, and if you really miss him, remember that writing letters is a hundred times more effective than talking.
Reason #4: Why you should be home
Susan is the career type woman, who is a trapeze artist several times a week. In contrast, her loving partner Jiang Tao is a civil servant, with a bland and stable job. Susan every time after coming home, tired of the whole body has no energy, so do not want to go out at all, the weekend only want to nest in the home to sleep. However, Jiang Tao at this time but very want to play outside. If Susan does not agree, he simply said about a friend, early in the morning on a double holiday out of the door. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of services to the public.
Review: Jiang Tao either has completely changed his mind, or is really bored to death. Susan is certainly very busy, but also can not ask her boyfriend with their own clock to go forward and backward, just want the other party to comply with their own wishes. The first thing you need to do is to take the time to do it, and on a good weekend like this, why should Susan stay at home?
Strategy: Go ahead and schedule a casual short trip where he can sweat it out on the golf course and you can nap comfortably by the green grass – the relaxation is better than sleeping at home. Isn’t it better to relax than to sleep at home?
Reason #5: The guilt explosion
“Overtime again! Count how many times this month you have not come back to have dinner with me! You have to leave me to go on a trip with your colleagues during Golden Week, and you can’t take me there, saying that you want to strengthen your relationships! Is work really that important? Why is your company not as busy as you are vomiting blood? I think you don’t want to come back at all, you don’t love me at all, you don’t take me into account at all!”
This kind of routine crying and cursing often happens in the conversations between the lovers, Rei and Zhou. The first thing that happened was that the two lovers had a lot of time to work together.
Review: Yes, men who don’t go home always feel a little bit guilty. But if you always exaggerate this point, they simply come to a delaying tactics, waiting for you to a total outbreak forget. The company has a subconscious mind: I have to face her complaints at nine o’clock anyway, so I might as well go back at twelve o’clock and suffer a little less.
Strategy: It’s a fact that he doesn’t come home, so instead of exaggerating how sad you are about it, think about how to change it. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Life after marriage is getting on track, but the stagnant life and changes in women and the temptation of the outside world can push men out the door, so it’s only a matter of time before the marriage gets stale, so create more surprises, more love and more understanding in your life.
They’re not just a couple of things.