Many people feel ashamed to apologize first after a fight, and sometimes they get up the courage to apologize but the result is not as perfect as they thought, in fact, it’s all because your apology statement is not perfect.
1. I’m sorry for making you feel bad.
Imperfection lies in the fact that the first half of the sentence once again evokes the other person’s sadness, and so the previous work is abandoned. This reminds me of a déjà vu scene: small A mood is very sad, small B try to comfort Ta, the effect is good, small A finally almost forget about it, but small B this time asked a “you feel better?” The first time I saw it, I remembered that I had just felt sad again, so I started sighing again.
So, since you want to lighten the mood, it’s best not to remind each other that “you’re still sad,” even if it does let them know you care about Ta’s feelings, but in the heat of the moment, and The fact that you are the one who caused the sadness makes you feel very conflicted.
2. I shouldn’t have said that, I’m sorry.
Imperfect in that the phrase provides the other person with the opportunity to ask you back. “How should you talk when you shouldn’t talk like that?” “You know you shouldn’t talk like that, and you still talk like that?” Not being able to answer is the same consequence as not being able to answer when you admit you were wrong and are asked a rhetorical question.
3. I’m sorry for upsetting you. /I’m sorry I shouldn’t have talked like that.
The imperfection is that most people, when they listen, take the later meaning as the main meaning of the scene, as if everyone agrees that the words after the “but” are the main point, and the earlier ones are the scene. The first part of the sentence is just a scene. This is especially true when you throw in a half-sentence that might elicit a negative response.
4. I have a bad attitude, I’m sorry.
The imperfection is that the word “sorry” is ambiguous. Recall that in all kinds of literature, “sorry” is usually found in scenes where an apology is reluctant but insistent, and is sometimes followed not by an apology but by a retort or a refusal (I’m sorry, sir ……; I’m sorry, I can’t do this), so it seems insincere. Sincerity. Other words that have a similar effect are “I’m sorry”, “I’m sorry”, etc.
I don’t have the perfect sentence, but I do have a safe sentence: I’m sorry for my bad attitude.