The harder you work, the busier you get, the higher you get, the more work you have to assign to yourself, and even the work of other colleagues and other departments. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the market. But always accept new tasks as they come? Are you used to traveling, handling emails, answering phone calls, meetings, and drafting documents like a gyroscope; once you let up on your exuberance, you feel empty and anxious and must find the next job to do immediately?
Who creates “stress addiction”?
1. Potential release: When under stress, people release a lot of energy. For example, a bid that you normally couldn’t finish in two days was done in just two hours on the eve of a negotiation that was to be held overnight. For example, when an almost impossible task pressed to you, you will find yourself not only not overwhelmed, but thinking like a spring, inspiration, to come up with more ways, full of creativity, and all over the body is dry. This is the proverbial “no pressure, no motivation”. Stress is what brings out the best in us and makes us feel strong.
2. Pleasure experience: Does stress create pleasure? Scientific experiments have proven that under stress, the body secretes dopamine-like hormones, which, in turn, make us feel high. this explains why some people always like to procrastinate until the last minute, because they like the experience of stress in this extreme state. Whenever they triumphantly complete a task in the midst of tension and defeat a very restrictive condition, they experience the thrill of success once again intensely. But unfortunately, this pleasure is transient, when the pressure recedes, soon you will not be able to meet their own pleasure, must try to experience a stronger pleasure. People with stress addiction miss the pleasure of stress once they let go, because they feel empty and not at all alive.
3. Fantasizing about the future: When working under great stress, people paint a picture of the future in their minds in order to counteract the stress. For example, you may think, wow, this month’s bonus will be a lot; or you may think that you will be named an outstanding employee this quarter; or even, you may think that the proceeds from this project will enable your family to go on a trip abroad together! It’s a joy to live in your imagination because there are no limits to imagination.
4. Feeling needed: Has your lover abandoned you? It’s okay, go to work! Because there is too much work and too many colleagues in the company that need you. You’re afraid you’ll look out of place at a class reunion? Then schedule an important meeting on the day of the reunion. When you feel insecure and unwanted in a relationship, you will try to find another way to achieve self-satisfaction and feel needed. And work pressure is the easiest and most convenient way to meet that need, not only for you, but also for your colleagues.
5. The elite mindset of inferiority complex: The real world has created an increasing number of “elite mindsets” that strive for perfection in everything, and that’s where the pressure comes from. People who want to label themselves as “elite” no matter what have a disconfirming, low opinion of their self-worth. They have to be recognized by doing something, and to do these things perfectly, in order to prove their existence value and existence necessary. Once they are free, they worry that they are being ignored and that their existence is not valuable.
6. Parents in childhood are demanding: Parents in childhood are demanding, judging their children by achievement and honor standards, rather than paying attention to and praising their children for their efforts in the process, and gradually children will focus only on their own achievements. Children are taught that “you have to do well for me to like you”, which will be extended to “I have to do well for leaders and customers to like me” when they grow up. In a results-based rubric, adult children see failure and low achievement as intolerable, and they must repeatedly prove themselves by succeeding to win the attention and affection of others.
Categorizing stress: Coping with stress is an important issue facing modern people, and we may rise to the occasion or run away from it. How can we find effective ways to deal with stress? Let’s start by classifying stress using the “three-part approach.
(1) Stress that you have to face and deal with right now
The solution: Break down your goals into small steps, from easy to difficult, and give yourself a reward for each one you complete. This will not only improve efficiency and save time, but also help boost self-confidence.
(2) Ongoing stress over a period of time
Solution: One misconception many people have about this is that they treat total long-term stress as an average daily stress. For example, a family’s total loan is $1 million and the repayment period is 20 years. If you meditate on these numbers to yourself every day, then every day you are carrying that $1 million and 20 years of total stress. And in fact, we only have to face the pressure of the mortgage apportioned for one day. If you can think of it this way, you can naturally deal with it in the same way as the first type of stress, and it will feel very easy.
(3) Stress that can be ignored
Solution: Dealing with this type of stress requires us to divert our attention, develop more hobbies and make more friends in our daily lives. It’s important to acknowledge that we have to do our best and then relax and accept the results. As long as life is fulfilling, you won’t have time to worry about it.
There are ways to relieve stress addiction
1. When you realize that you are addicted to stress, stop what you are doing and give yourself a few minutes to think, “It’s okay not to do this work” a few times, and you’ll see that it’s not as bad as you thought, and that the world is still safe even if you stop.
2. Change the criteria for assessing your value by workload and density
It’s a well-known fact that being absolutely busy is not more productive than a combination of work and play. Just because you do more doesn’t mean you do it well.
3. Prioritize your problems
A huge amount of stress comes from moving something very far away or very minor to the forefront of your mind. For example, do you have to go to the supermarket today to buy the tent you need for next weekend’s field trip?
4. Accept mistakes or failures
If you can’t accept your mistakes or failures openly, you may not be able to stop stressing yourself out. Why not make a small place for your mistakes or failures – accept them and you will find that they are actually not terrible because, like happiness and success, they are a gain for your mind.
5. Enrich your life
Develop long-shelved interests, find new friends, take your family on outings and vacations, and enrich your life.
6. Learn to show weakness
Even strong women should learn to show weakness, learn to talk, and let their friends and loved ones share some of their worries and concerns so that they don’t fall deeper and deeper into the mire of stress alone.
7. Listen to your inner voice
Is stress addiction a bad thing? But I’m really in the zone and enjoying it, so why should I stop? Psychologists will tell you how to analyze this feeling of “enjoyment”: if you’re results-oriented, then you have to intervene and take the pressure off yourself; if you’re process-oriented, then enjoy yourself under pressure!
Commentary: Times are moving on, and so are the competitions and challenges. Stress is everywhere. The most common word you hear every day is “stressful!” The most important thing you can do to eliminate stress is to have a proper understanding of it.