Many people have marriage-phobia, but only a few will choose to face the situation, and most will still choose to avoid it. It’s not easy for feelings to come to the moment of marriage, if only to escape, which is irresponsible for the feelings as well as hurting each other. People are generally afraid of marriage out of the following 5 ideas, experts support the solution, if you have this situation, you may want to refer to it.
If I get sick, can he stay and take care
Old age, sickness, and death are natural laws of human flourishing from which no one can escape. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.
Interpretation: Before thinking about this issue, why don’t you put yourself in his shoes and think about what kind of behavior you would have taken if it was him who had the accident? The truth is often harsh when trying to avoid tragedy, and if you want more reassurance when you’re vulnerable, you’re going to have to let the family add more common property that belongs to both of them.
I don’t want to be like that couple in the future
maybe Hearsay, perhaps in real life you are surrounded by a pair of living examples that make you discouraged about marriage, the family is often filled with the smoke of war or even cold violence, or one party cheating on …… can not help but doubt the future of married life worry.
Interpretation: It is these real-life living examples that can be our teaching materials for married life, to take warning of the problems contained therein, so as to avoid the same mistakes in our own marriages. The road that has been traveled by those who have gone before us can be taken again to bypass the rocks and big potholes and get to the bottom faster.
Maybe we end up finding out that we are two worlds apart
Hot love The same glue as in the honeymoon period tapers off after about three years of marriage and fades away after seven years. The family’s main focus begins to shift to the raising of the next generation, and sweet words and intimate acts between the couple are few and far between, even as the two become more and more independent and less dependent on each other.
Interpretation: It is true that couples in the stable phase of marriage are more capable of independent behavior and can maintain a good functioning life without needing each other. But this does not mean that the couple is getting farther and farther away or even does not belong to a world, on the contrary, each other in the emotional dependence is getting stronger and stronger. It is because you are so familiar and used to the feeling that you feel as if there is none. In reality, this means that you have entered a more tacit realm of rapport and coexistence.
Less sexual interest
The longer you are married, the more familiar you are with your significant other’s The longer you are married, the more familiar you become with your significant other’s body, the less excited and less frequent you will be to have sex. If we stop being interested in each other’s bodies in the future, doesn’t that mean we’ll feel less and less for the other half as well?
Interpretation: Each stage of marriage and family has a different pattern of getting along, and the members do not have the same status and focus. The pheromone that makes opposites attracted to each other is a substance that lasts for a very short time, and once it disappears it means that the feeling of love is getting faded. But after the frenzied period of love is over, a long and calm period of stability follows. And no matter how many weekends it takes, people still look forward to the next one, or take cooking very seriously, so why can’t you look forward to the weekend and the meal with the same consistency and excitement that only you two can do?
Losing Yourself in Marriage
Maybe most of the time after marriage
Maybe most of the time after marriage is spent in the world of two people, life is only work and family, to run the family and gradually lose their own personal life and even hobbies and personality, become a woman around him and the pot.
Interpretation: Marriage is a job for two people to work together in combination to run, in which either party will make changes and preserve the essence for the other, and in the constant friction and adaptation, they eventually become the most suitable duo for each other. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.